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Day 4 Eulogies

 Sam Jorillo

16 years na po si Papa ko kay Sir Mario.

Salamat po, Sir Mario, sa pag-alaga ninyo sa amin,

at sa pagmahal ninyo sa amin.


About Sam:  Sam is the daughter of Elmer and Ester Jorillo.

Elmer started out at 18 years old as a houseboy for Mario & Inday.

He then learned to be the family cook, and married Ester shortly after.

A few years ago, he became a family driver, and now drives for the family of

John & Paz Nery.  Ester is Inday's trusted assistant and caregiver.

Mario's daily breakfast routine started with a good morning hug from Sam.

Martin Nery

Good evening. My name is Martin Nery. I am the youngest child of Alfred and Polly.   
On behalf of my mom and siblings Ting, Dong, Pie and my wife, Kay, we would like to extend our sincerest condolences to Tita Inday, to their children, and everyone in the family.   
In the Nery clan, Tito Mario was not only a role model; he was also our moral compass.  He was successful early in life and we would be among the many who have benefited from his wisdom and generosity.   
When I was listening to the others speaking about Tito Mario last Tuesday, talking about his dedication, being a hero, I could not help but nod my head in agreement. Among the words used to describe Tito Mario, what struck me was a compound word: servantleader. He was simply dedicated to a higher calling. Living a life of meaning and significance. This to me summarizes what he represented to most of us.  


And what better way to honor the man than to look at how he has dedicated his life to the Lord. To look at how we can also dedicate our own lives to the Lord.  
Maybe God has been trying to get your attention. He has given you a nudge here and a whisper there. I invite you then to also listen to that still small voice telling you to accept Him as your Lord and Savior. To consider surrendering everything to our Lord Jesus Christ. I believe this is the best legacy Tito Mario has given us, to show us that a life dedicated to the Lord is a meaningful and victorious life.  

Let me close with a quote from Revelations as Jesus says to us:  “Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with that person, and they with me.”  

Thank you. 

About Martin: Martin is the youngest of 4 children of Alfred and Polly Nery.

Alfred was the younger brother of Mario.

Bob Nery

read by Cristy Nery Abasolo

I have been asked by Mario’s children to contribute to his eulogy. I have to say that over the last 50 years my meetings with him have been sparse and usually in the company of family parties where meaningful conversations were not the norm to catch up very much.

 So my contribution today really is about the younger brother and young married man, that I knew before going overseas to the US and later, Australia.

We seven children certainly had a very religious family life with our parents going to church most every day and this I am sure gave Mario the steadfast faith and need to “make a difference” that he took with him through his life.

I cannot in all honesty say that he was a saint as a small boy, he could be quite a hot head, and I once had a fork in my forehead, thrown by him across the dinner table, which resulted in me giving him a good walloping.  We certainly had our moments!

After his schooling he went on to study and work at the same time with the San Miguel Corporation, and earned his degree in commerce, ending up at Harvard for three months before graduating with an MBA.

To my way of thinking, Mario’s best choice in life came in the form of Inday, who has been his soul mate and lifelong supporter.  I particularly honour her today in her devotion to my brother and in her and Mario’s care of my mother Soledad, when she needed a home.

I remember when my granddaughter twins; Caitlin and Jordan went to Manila when they were much younger; they said to me on returning, “Tito Mario looks like you Lolo Bob”.  I suppose we do look very similar.

I am not a facebook person, but I sometimes get to hear, through my girls, what is happening with Mario and Indays’ family. They all seem “up to speed” with each other’s news and that is good as it binds them together across the distances.

Sorry not to be with you today, but I feel my overseas travel days are over, and I have to remember that I am 85 next week.

Vale brother, hope you are now pain free and will soon be with Mama Chata and Papa Titing, Jinggoy, Alfred and Chic-chic maybe swimming in Cabuaan, having a picnic, back when the sea was clear and fresh and the lechon tasted especially good.

God bless.

Love, Bobby.      


About Bob: Bob is the older brother of Mario. He resides in Sydney, Australia.

Jing Nery Sabalza

for Manny & Joy Nery Sabalza

read by Cristy Nery Abasolo

The whole Sabalza family specially my mom Joy sincerely feel a terrible loss in Tito Mario's passing. Other than my dad, he was my mom's pillar of strength. He was one of my dad's favorite brothers-in-law. They helped each other out. We are one with your family and with so many others who are truly saddened by Tito Mario's passing. We will really miss him from the bottom of our hearts.

About Joy: Joy is the younger & only surviving sister of Mario, & the 6th of 7 siblings.

Raffy Abasolo

When Cristy and I got married I remember distinctly after the ceremony everyone was giving their customary congratulations and well wishes. Then out of this little group that was gathered outside the church, I saw Daddy Mario walking towards me. I extended my hand to shake his, but instead of shaking my hand, he comes over and without saying a word, he gives me a big strong hug. I said to myself, “Ah, I guess I'm really a part of this family now. I was very moved by that gesture. I think it exemplifies, among his other admirable traits, that actions are stronger than words.

Daddy Mario said in his last visit to Canada during one of our family gatherings, that in our family, there are no in-laws and that we are all his children. He has certainly shown this in the way he has treated me as one of his own.

Daddy, I will miss you. I’ve always admired  you. Thank you for the privilege of having had you in my life.

About Raffy: Raffy is married to Cristy, Mario's 5th child.

Kathryn Pacana

About Kathryn:  Kathryn, or Kathy, is Mario's 3rd grandchild. Her Papa Mario called her "my pretty nurse" towards the last months of his life.

Click to view Kathryn's eulogy

Robert Nery

read by Paco Nery

To all of us Nerys in Australia, there were two places in Manila that together formed a harbour where we felt welcome whenever we returned, like the left and right sides of a bay: one was the house of our mother’s sister Sol and Tito Max, the other was the house of Tita Inday and Tito Mario. Tita Inday and Tito Mario’s compound was to us the gravitational center of the Nery clan, bringing us together with people who were friends as much as they were relatives.  It also called up our memories of Cagayan de Oro, which we had left in teenage or childhood. Whenever we visited the compound and, at the end of our stay in the Philippines, took our leave, it was always with the unthinking assumption that some other time we would meet again. Now, there will be no other time with Tito Mario.  

He was the younger brother of our father Bob who is the younger brother of Luis, the remaining three Nery sons after Alfred and Jinggoy died younger than they should have. I have no memory of Tito Mario as a personality from when – as a nine or ten year old – I sometimes came to the house behind the provincial hospital in Cagayan, to play with Paco. I don’t remember much of him either from when he and Tita Inday occupied the house next to the Coca-Cola plant. I knew of him, but really came to know him here in Manila, from my trips to the Philippines, where I always felt welcome at the compound. (And where, more than once, I probably overstayed my welcome.) My uncle was not quite like my father. My father has always been a cooler customer than his younger brother. Tito Mario was more willing to be amused by others and more willing to amuse. He told jokes.  Perhaps, he was simply being an uncle rather than a father. At this moment, random bits of our passing conversations come to my mind. I remember him saying once that, in a Paris street, he had come across my high school chemistry teacher, who was selling flowers and had married a Frenchwoman. I remember him saying, in the Marcos years, that he had had his first meeting with the new owner of San Miguel. Another time, out of the blue, he mentioned that Renato Constantino, the historian, had just admitted being a member of the Communist Party. Tito Mario was a formidable person. He was upright, well-travelled, hard-working, self-made. He was also charitable. I know that when I come to visit the Philippines, as we Nerys in Australia will continue to do, it will be as if a landmark by which I was always able to orient myself had suddenly disappeared. In its presence, we felt at home.

Marleen, Liza, Caryn, Sandra, Philip and Neil, my siblings and I will always be grateful for his care and always remember him with affection.


Robert Nery

Melito "Bimbo" Salazar

- a reading of his article "Man for Others"

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